Listed below are the books that I have purchased whilst I conduct research prior to writing my own book called “Accepting Infertility: redefining your dreams to create a purposeful life”. At the moment I have not read any of these books so they are NOT personally recommendations: you need to make up your own mind about whether or not you think they will help you. As I read the books and test out some of the content (exercises and techniques etc) I will update this page to include my reviews.
|Coping with Infertility ... One of the main reasons I bought this book is because it contains proven techniques that have been complete by both men and women. I might be a writer, and thereefore very creative, however, I used to be a business analysis so I feel comfortable with logic and prefer things to be supported by evidence. These techniques have been developed over a number of years and have been successful in helping people deal with the stress, grief and depression infertility often causes.|
|Coping With Infertility, Miscarriage, and Neonatal Loss: Finding Perspective and Creating Meaning ... This is another book that is specifically about infertility and other related losses. Many other books that I've seen are about dealing with general grief. Whilst these can be helpful I wanted something far more specific. I've dealt with lots of bereeavement in the past: my mother and father died within 18 months of each other and my step-father 7 years later. Whilst there are some similarities between the grief that I went through on those occasions and what my infertility has cause there are huge difference. I hope that this book will help fill in the gaps in my knowledge and aid the healing process.|
|Expressive Writing: Words That Heal ... James W Pennebaker has written a number of books about the benefits of writing to deal with trauma etc and is well respected in the field. I chose this particular book because it contains a couple of different “programs” together with information on how to analysis what you’ve written. These programs follow a sequential process which appeals to the Business Analyst within me. After more than 15 years in that very logical environment I find that I still prefer to have set processes to follow. My creative nature has developed drastically over the last five years since I stopped training Business Analysis: however, some habits are hard to kick.|
|Writing as a Way of Healing: How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives ... I bought this book because it’s based on 20 years of research. The “blurb” also makes it clear that whilst writing can be helpful it has to be the correct type of writing, otherwise it can do more harm than good. If I want to include the benefits of writing in book I need to ensure that I am passing on the best possible information. I know that writing has helped me: however, my process is based on gut instinct. For my book to be of value it needs to based proven techniques etc.|
|The Therapeutic Potential of Creative Writing: Writing Myself ... Again this book satisfies my need for proven techniques. It’s is also written specifically for professions who want to incorporate therapeutic writing in their portfolio of techniques they use to help their clients. I like that it explores a number of different writing genres and doesn’t only focus on journal writing. There is also information about writing in groups which will be helpful if I start running writing retreats which is something that I am considering for the future.|
|Writing Works: A Resource Handbook for Therapeutic Writing Workshops and Activities ... This is another book about using writing as a way to deal with stress and trauma. This one contains loads of techniques used by a number of different health-care professionals. When I was training people to become Business Analysts I found the most effective way of sharing my knowledge and experience was by providing hands-on content that required the delegates to be actively involved in their training. This book sounds perfect and will help me as I develop my own set of processes and exercises.|
|The Compassionate Mind (Compassion Focused Therapy) ... This book is slightly different from the rest for a very good reason. All of the others have been specifically about infertility or the benefits of writing to cope with stress and trauma. All very inwardly looking things, which is to be expected: infertility happened to me and I’m writing about my experiences. However, to only look inward it not healthy. Too much navel gazing can result in self-absorption and forgetting that the people closest to us also have needs. This particularly true of partners who could also be struggling coming to terms with their childless state. So this book was all about remembering that other people have struggles to and that it’s important to be compassionate towards them.|